Letting go of a friendship that isn’t growing with you can feel like stepping off the stage without a choreographed exit—scary, uncertain, and maybe even a little sad. Our friendships should be our biggest sources of hype! They lift us, push us, and encourage us to experience every milestone with confidence. But how do you let go of a friendship that’s no longer working?
Do an Internal Check-in
Somewhere along the line, you probably sensed things were off. Maybe you’re giving your all, growing stronger and more passionate, and they’re…not? That can feel lonely.
Ask yourself:
- Does this person cheer for your latest routine or make you doubt yourself?
- Do you feel energized after hanging out or more exhausted?
- Is it possible they’ve stayed the same while you’ve been growing?
Sometimes recognizing the truth is hard, but crucial. Just like nailing stage presence, you need honesty first, then you can adjust.
Reflect
Breathe. Write out what you’re feeling. Don’t be afraid to say anything and everything you feel. This is a private space to reflect on the friendship.
Try responding to these prompts:
- “I’m proud of myself for… but I don’t feel supported when…”
- “I love our memories from class and performances, but maybe it’s time for a change.”
This reflection is for you and you alone.
Choose Words that Feel Good
If you decide to have a conversation, go slow and sure. Use “I” statements to express what you need without putting the blame on them. Just because a friendship ends or changes, that doesn’t give you permission to be hurtful.
Try phrases like:
- “I’ve noticed I need more encouragement lately.”
- “I feel like our friendship isn’t giving me the support and love I want.”
- “I respect you and the memories we have, but I think I need to take a break.”
Be Open to New Friendships
Letting go doesn’t mean feeling lonely forever. In fact, this is prime time to meet people who vibe with your version of growth.
Find your people!
- Find other dancers who are pulling late-night rehearsals and hitting choreography goals.
- Connect with friends from other creative circles—like art, music, or theater—who believe in constantly bettering themselves.
- Join a workshop, master class, or performance group where supportive growth is front and center.
You deserve a circle that grows with you, that watches your expressions evolve, and cheers as you hit all of your goals.
Take Care of Yourself
This is a major transition. Show yourself love.
Self-care activities to try:
- Journal: Write down all of your feelings, from excitement and happiness to sadness and anxiety,
- Treat yourself: Do something that celebrates you! Book a solo photo shoot, learn new choreography, or have a spa night.
- Celebrate the artist you are: You’re making space for positivity and creativity. That’s a victory on its own.
Keep a Positive Mindset
A friendship that has run its course doesn’t have to end with fireworks. Have these conversations in private. Growing up or changing a relationship isn’t about winning or being right. Be kind and mindful of their feelings, too.
Shine
You’re a dancer who deserves friendships that reflect who you are and who you’re becoming. Letting go of one friendship isn’t giving up, it’s refining your cast. You’re choosing connections where trust, ambition, and understanding feel fitting to your growth.