
Being shy or introverted can make speaking up in class or dance practice difficult. Self-expression and participation are important in these spaces. Your voice matters, and you deserve to be heard! Step outside of your comfort zone to build your confidence and increase your impact on your learning. Speaking up is a habit that is actively built, not a hidden talent!
Start Small
Speaking up doesn’t always mean getting up in front of a big group and giving a presentation. It is okay to start small until you feel more comfortable. Start engaging in small ways in class. Ask questions aloud or give feedback in small group settings. When it comes to dance practice, even asking your teacher to clarify a movement or count is practice for using your voice. Small steps always lead to something greater.
Stay Prepared
Sometimes not knowing what to say causes fear to speak up. It can be helpful to rehearse in your head what you want to say or ask before saying it out loud. Don’t overdo it! Allow yourself only one or two minutes to plan before you speak. If you have a lot of thoughts, write them down and organize them. Staying prepared will help you feel more in control and at ease.
Engage in Other Ways
Your reactions and participation happen beyond what you say. There are other ways to share your thoughts or opinions with others. TNodding your head, raising your hand, and maintaining eye contact are silent ways to participate when you aren’t speaking. Pull yourself out of your shell with silent engagement. Then once you feel more comfortable, start to contribute more.
Share your Feelings
It isn’t a bad thing to use your support system! Express to friends and family how you have been feeling or what you have been thinking. They can give you advice, back you up, or simply just be a listening ear. Just knowing that you have someone there for you can make a big difference. Plus, you can celebrate your wins, embarrassments, and fearful moments as you practice speaking up.
Keep the Right Mindset
It’s easy to get caught up in self-doubt and negative thoughts. When you start to feel one of those not-so-positive thoughts coming in, challenge yourself to reframe it. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen?” and answer honestly! Grounding yourself in reality can help you realize there is nothing to be that scared of. Replace your negative “what ifs” with neutral or positive expectations.